GIVE ME ALL THE ORANGES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was in the group that play the role of Dr.Roland, who needed all 3000 oranges from Ms.Cardoza. During the negotiation with the group who play the role of Dr.Jones. We did not really arrive to a concrete solution at the end due to the limited time that we had. But we managed to find out Dr.Roland needed only the rind of the oranges while Dr.Jones needed the rest of the oranges to make juice. I thought our group figure out this information quite early of the whole negotiation. I think by stating the essence of our expectations or what we needed in a dilemma would be a good starting step, because both parties would understand each others' perspectives and thoughts.

In this lecture, we talked about mainly conflicts in workplaces, which involve two people. But in my opinion, knowing how to deal with personal conflicts are important as well. Because i think personal or emotional conflicts would directly affect work performances and lower level of interaction or communication with others. For example, when i had a bad day, i tend to keep myself quiet for the rest of the day, but if i seen someone who did something that i dislike or i don't appreciate, i tend to just speak out all the negative thoughts i have, probably in a bad manner too. This would ruin the relationships with others and probably more difficult to find a proper solution to settle my conflict. When two people get into a conflict, it is hard to solve the problem when none of them yield the other, or even try to solve the problem logically. Although the best way to solve the conflict is by first leaving the conflict and let each other control the negative emotions first and then try solving it again at a later time. But sometimes i think it is hard to leave the conflict, because for the person who tries to get out of the conflict first would tend to be the "loser" or the weaker person who doesn't know how to argue or the one that did everything wrong. I just thought this would make the person who kept fighting feel very proud of himself/herself because he/she could manage to defeat the other. I thought of this kind of scenario is because i had once seen two ambitious and competitive people got into conflicts, and they both did not want to yield each other, and ended up breaking their relationship by not finding each other anymore. But from my expereience, i had never suffered in such big bigggg conflicts that i chose to stop communicating with the other person before. Although mini conflicts i sometimes would encounter, but i always try to yield the other person because i thought it's pointless to drag on the conflict when it is solvable.

And I thought by mentioning how the other person live his/her life or dissing their personal apperances are the worse approach to take when people got into conflicts, because it has nothing to do with the conflict and the more negative comments toward their lifestyles, apperances or past mistakes , the more difficult to solve the conflicts in a win-win situation. Therefore, i had learnt to deal with conflicts in a more logical way and try to keep the emotions of anger or disappointment to the lowest level as possible.